Keep Doing What Works
Thursday 14 March, 2013
Find whatever works for you and keep doing it. But be warned: it’s not as easy as it seems. In the beginning you are likely to see short-term results which will motivate you to continue. However, it’s when your progress curve levels out, or when you are close to your goal that the hard work starts, because that’s the point when you need to be disciplined. That’s the point when you need to remind yourself how you got there and carry on doing whatever you’ve been doing.
What Are You Going To Do About It?
Thursday 7 February, 2013
It was one of the most powerful questions I heard during my personal development training. We were always being told to verbalise whatever was going on inside, but not to indulge too much in the emotions attached to our issue. If such indulgences went too far the question ‘What are you going to do about it?‘ would snap us back to the practicalities of what to do next.
Consistency
Thursday 15 March, 2012
The word consistency has come up again and again over the last few weeks. In discussions with clients, with athletes and also with my teacher, Karaj. In every conversation there was talk of obstacles impeding progress: the capricious nature of certain people who are always moving the goalposts; or our own thoughts threatening to affect our performance or journey. Everyday hindrances which so easily distract us, taking our focus away from whatever we are striving for.
Words of Encouragement
Tuesday 20 December, 2011
In any project there comes a time when the motivation ebbs and belief in the work we are doing can go missing; it may even disappear altogether. This is the case whether we are working on ourselves, renovating the kitchen, writing a book, fixing a car, a relationship or a washing machine. This post is a reminder of that, offering words of encouragement to keep going.
How Easily the Mind Goes to Work
Saturday 28 May, 2011
This post is is about how quickly, easily and effectively the mind goes to work to convince us of its fantasies. It describes how believable and how persuasive its constructs are and what we can do to rectify things.
Prediction
Thursday 26 May, 2011
It’s helpful to be able to predict what will happen in any given situation. We are aided in this by one simple rule. It doesn’t always apply and it is often the goal of personal development to ensure that it doesn’t apply, but for the most part we would do well to remember the following:
Drafting The Contract
Wednesday 22 May, 2002
Karaj told me this morning that I need to be able to deal with people who suck my energy. I need to challenge them and/or avoid them. I felt irritated by Simran. He is still acting like a scolded child – withdrawn and silent. Later, in the supervision, I missed him not following us out. He is not engaging with the group and I have to be more observant of everything around me.
Live In The Problem
Wednesday 15 May, 2002
I went with Bishan to visit his solicitor. The purpose (for me) was to support Bishan in his meeting with the solicitor to clarify legal documents. To make sure he did not withdraw and stayed present, alive and assertive throughout.
Completion & Prediction
Thursday 9 May, 2002
One lesson from this week has been how I have finished jobs. I have always had a tendency to move on to other things when I begin to reach the end of a job. On Tuesday, with the appraisal work, I was tempted to move onto something else having done 85% of it. I told myself to continue and finish the job. That’s what I did, and not only did I feel the satisfaction of completion, I was also not left with the usual loose end, which eventually weighs me down; especially when it is joined by all the other loose ends from other work which I leave incomplete.
We Can Help Each Other
Saturday 4 May, 2002
Yesterday, in the men’s group, the five youngers (Ishwar, Dev, Calvin, Bishan and me) came together to sort ourselves out. Karaj used Leon’s issue to highlight to us that we are isolated from each other, that we all have the same issues and that we need to support each other fully. That means challenging one another and not letting anyone off the hook to continue in our bad habits. We all think that we are the only ones with problems and that the others are okay. Wrong. We all have issues and we can help each other.