Monday 14 October, 2013
When we forget the simplicity of it all, or we’re convinced there must be another way; when we’re stuck, or frustrated by the lack of novelty, this is the post to read. It’s a reminder of the value of repetition and practise. Every day, every minute, every breath. In the end, it all comes down to this:
Friday 12 July, 2013
What are your goals? What is your purpose? Your vision? When you have answered those questions, the next step is to make everything about them. However, when you do, there is one major obstacle you may have to overcome: the feeling that you are being selfish by making it all about you. Know this: it isn’t selfish.
Monday 13 August, 2012
That’s what he kept saying. The fastest man ever. “All day, every day.” The Olympic Games have come and gone, and the essence that remains is contained in those four words. I saw people in tears because they had won a gold medal and I saw people in tears because they hadn’t. Others rejoiced because they finished third, or simply because they had made the final. Some were elated just to be there; to be part of the Olympics and to know they would forever be an Olympian. Being present, pushing themselves and competing at the very highest level with the best in their field had been their goal. All day, every day.
Friday 30 December, 2011
At a time when people are busy formulating their resolutions for the coming year, it is more important to look back over the year just gone to remember and acknowledge the journey we have taken. In fact, when we do so, it is easier to see where we want to go in the year ahead. It’s like drawing a graph of our progress. Plotting just one point (the here and now) on the graph is meaningless. We need more data to give our graph perspective. With the addition of a few more points our trajectory becomes visible, and the more positions we plot the more accurate our extrapolation can be.
Friday 30 September, 2011
It is not uncommon for my clients to express concern; to worry about the attainment of their goals. When they do, my advice is always the same: assume you will get there and then enjoy the journey. Achieving the latter helps to guarantee success with the former. This post is about just that: enjoying the whole process, safe in the knowledge that you will succeed.
Friday 1 April, 2011
I tell all my clients the same thing: if you can be clear about what it is you want, then it’s already on its way. The rest is pretty straightforward. It’s about recognising and taking the opportunities as they come your way, which they will. And you will see the opportunities, because you are focused on what it is you want to achieve.
Saturday 24 August, 2002
This is a summary of notes from the past week. There were good days and there were not so good days. It was all about getting on with the work; using the to-do list as a tool to be effective; acknowledging the emotions, but remaining unaffected by them; taking charge of situations and issues as they arise, and being in charge of my life.
Saturday 20 July, 2002
Today we analysed the facts, perceptions and scripts involved in the contract weekend two weeks ago. Before we began I spent some time in conversation with Dev. He has succeeded because he comes here, listens to Karaj, wants to change and works hard. We also talked about the congruency of thoughts (Parent), observations (Adult) and feelings (Child).
Sunday 7 July, 2002
I tried to print out my vision statement from 9th May this morning but the printer just kept throwing out pages of nothing. I had read it and discounted it, believing it to be insufficient and sub-standard. This would pave the way for behaviour which Karaj described as brilliant because I managed to suck my entire team into believing that I had no vision. It was a convincing performance because I was convinced that I had no vision. I felt the vision I had was not good enough. There, again, is my trait of putting myself down. Cut this out.
Saturday 6 July, 2002
I woke up looking forward to the day. It felt like a special day for some reason. Harriet and Priya were late and I realised what I had done. Although I had told Harriet it was a 09.00 start when she phoned yesterday, my please others (driver) had reacted to her gasp by telling her it was okay if she turned up at 11.00. At the time I thought nothing of it. I always do this! I give people news they perhaps don’t want to hear, my please others driver then softens the blow, but it is only meant for that instant because I still expect them to follow my initial instructions. When Harriet was not at the house on time it told me how serious this issue is for me. There is no clarity with such mixed messages and as such I cannot be trusted.