Monday 13 August, 2012
That’s what he kept saying. The fastest man ever. “All day, every day.” The Olympic Games have come and gone, and the essence which remains is contained in those four words. I saw people in tears because they had won a gold medal and I saw people in tears because they hadn’t. Others rejoiced because they finished third, or simply because they had made the final. Some were elated just to be there; to be part of the Olympics and to know they would forever be an Olympian. Being present, pushing themselves and competing at the very highest level with the best in their field had been their goal. All day, every day.
Friday 30 December, 2011
At a time when people are busy formulating their resolutions for the coming year, it is more important to look back over the year just gone to remember and acknowledge the journey we have taken. In fact, when we do so, it is easier to see where we want to go in the year ahead. It’s like drawing a graph of our progress. Plotting just one point (the here and now) on the graph is meaningless. We need more data to give our graph perspective. With the addition of a few more points our trajectory becomes visible, and the more positions we plot the more accurate our extrapolation can be.
Friday 30 September, 2011
It is not uncommon for my clients to express concern; to worry about the attainment of their goals. When they do, my advice is always the same: assume you will get there and then enjoy the journey. Achieving the latter helps to guarantee success with the former. This post is about just that: enjoying the whole process, safe in the knowledge that you will succeed.
Friday 1 April, 2011
I tell all my clients the same thing: if you can be clear about what it is you want, then it’s already on its way. The rest is pretty straightforward. It’s about recognising and taking the opportunities as they come your way, which they will. And you will see the opportunities, because you are focused on what it is you want to achieve.
Tuesday 28 May, 2002
A day in which I set myself up to be negative about myself was turned around by a phone call from Dev. We laughed together and, by talking to him about my process, I was able to see for myself that my problem with writing the latest appraisals was down to my negativity about myself; something which I can turn around by accentuating the positives. We also talked about visions and, again, our conversation highlighted how I automatically introduce ‘reality’ into my thoughts.
Sunday 26 May, 2002
Woke up feeling under the weather – it was this thought which let in my script and without knowing I isolated myself – preferring to mess about with the broken key in the lock rather than join the others in the garden. Robert returned and sorted it immediately. Karaj challenged me immediately about my isolation and I felt much easier in myself as a result. The fact that I had struggled unsuccessfully with the key was proof that I had wanted to isolate myself – as highlighted by Dev.
Saturday 25 May, 2002
Spent the morning working on SHG appraisals with Ishwar. The learning point which came out of it when Karaj returned with Dev, was that there is no need for me to go into therapy issues with Ishwar, or anyone else. My job is to make sure that they do their job, and whatever Ishwar writes or remembers or forgets for his appraisal, that is where he is, and Karaj will take it from there. This makes it easier for all concerned.
Wednesday 15 May, 2002
I went with Bishan to visit his solicitor. The purpose (for me) was to support Bishan in his meeting with the solicitor to clarify legal documents. To make sure he did not withdraw and stayed present, alive and assertive throughout.
Thursday 9 May, 2002
One lesson from this week has been how I have finished jobs. I have always had a tendency to move on to other things when I begin to reach the end of a job. On Tuesday, with the appraisal work, I was tempted to move onto something else having done 85% of it. I told myself to continue and finish the job. That’s what I did, and not only did I feel the satisfaction of completion, I was also not left with the usual loose end, which eventually weighs me down; especially when it is joined by all the other loose ends from other work which I leave incomplete.
Saturday 4 May, 2002
Yesterday, in the men’s group, the five youngers (Ishwar, Dev, Calvin, Bishan and me) came together to sort ourselves out. Karaj used Leon’s issue to highlight to us that we are isolated from each other, that we all have the same issues and that we need to support each other fully. That means challenging one another and not letting anyone off the hook to continue in our bad habits. We all think that we are the only ones with problems and that the others are okay. Wrong. We all have issues and we can help each other.