How Easily The Mind Goes To Work

Saturday 28 May, 2011

This post is is about how quickly, easily and effectively the mind goes to work to convince us of its fantasies. It describes how believable and how persuasive its constructs are and what we can do to rectify things.

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Thursday 26 May, 2011

It’s helpful to be able to predict what will happen in any given situation. We are aided in this by one simple rule. It doesn’t always apply and it is often the goal of personal development to ensure that it doesn’t apply, but for the most part we would do well to remember the following:

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…and the chances are you won’t, if what you’re doing is changing your behaviour. To begin with, at least. But that’s okay because, as with so many things written in this blog, it’s all part of the process. The title of this post comes from a saying I often heard when I was growing up, ‘If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.‘ It comes in very handy when we start to change our habits because, as Karaj once told me:

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Just When We Think We’ve Made It

Tuesday 17 May, 2011

As we progress with our personal development, it is easy to think that things will be forever different, better, as a result of a breakthrough we have made. But we must be careful. It’s always the same. Just when we think we’ve made it, we get caught out. Something simple, seemingly innocuous happens and before we know it we have reverted back to our old patterns and are acting out our familiar script (TA).

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Punctuated Equilibrium

Thursday 12 May, 2011

Today’s historical post (‘Noticeable Progress’) mentions the first time during my training when I noticed a leap in my progress. In all learning situations some progress is visible during the initial period before things level off, settling down into a more steady state, such that we sometimes think we are making no progress at all.

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A couple of my recent historical posts (see the related posts at the foot of this entry) have been about meeting my needs myself rather than being reliant on others to do so for me. In order to be able to do that I must first know what my needs are.

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Child Ego State

Thursday 5 May, 2011

This is a TA (Transactional Analysis) term and needs a little clarification because of the two approaches I have used: one in my journals (see this entry, from 11 years ago) and one here on my website. In this post I briefly explain the difference between the two approaches and, at the end, I say a little more about what the Child ego state is.

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Contradiction, Paradox & Friendship

Wednesday 4 May, 2011

The writings in this blog may sometimes seem to contradict themselves. Where that happens, it is worth examining the contradiction more closely because we either discover there is no contradiction at all or, in its place, we find a paradox. This post is an example of what I mean. Whilst editing the entry from 11 years ago (‘Others’ Opinions’), I was reminded of a friend of mine and a story which needs to be told in order to give a fuller perspective on what is written in that entry.

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