Switching To Manual

Thursday 27 June, 2013

It shouldn’t be a surprise to learn that changing our patterns and habits can seem an arduous undertaking. It feels awkward and unnatural. And it’s tiring. But that is only because we are having to resort to manual techniques in order to make it possible. In any walk of life, the switch from automatic to manual is a frustrating one because automatic, by definition, requires no thought and minimal effort. Manual, on the other hand, is slow and cumbersome. To begin with, at least.

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Active Listening

Sunday 23 June, 2013

Being able to listen actively and effectively is not as easy as it may seem. Just like good communication, and giving and receiving feedback, it is a skill which requires practice. We are all able to list the main requirements for active listening: focus; concentration; respect; feedback; ask questions; summarise what you have understood; refrain from judgement; and perhaps most importantly, create the intention to listen fully and to understand the other person. But what are the obstacles?

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Nourishing Connections

Wednesday 12 June, 2013

I went to London last week and for the entire time I was there I connected. I connected with people who are very close to me; with people I hadn’t seen for years; and even one person I hadn’t seen for decades. I connected with people I’d never seen before and people I’ll undoubtedly never see again. This post is about the appreciation of those connections. Appreciation in both senses: of gratitude and of becoming more valuable over time. They left me feeling as though they had nourished my soul.

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Step By Step

Tuesday 4 June, 2013

This post is for those of us in a hurry. It’s for the impatient ones among us who want results quickly. Easily. Now. It is a reminder that long-term change – the kind which has the potential to become permanent – requires long-term commitment. If that sounds like too much to ask, there is a workaround: focus on the process rather than the results, and take it all one step at a time. That is where the real power lies. It does not come from irregular and exaggerated bursts of intention or activity. It comes from steady, quiet application on a regular basis over considerable time. Commit yourself to that and eventually you will see an unshakeable difference.

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