It All Comes Down To This

Monday 14 October, 2013

When we forget the simplicity of it all, or we’re convinced there must be another way; when we are stuck, or frustrated by the lack of novelty, this is the post to read. It’s a reminder of the value of repetition and practise. Every day, every minute, every breath. In the end, it all comes down to this:

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Evolution By Natural Reflection

Monday 6 May, 2013

[For those of you looking for information about my book, please click here. What follows is the original blog post, from which the title of the book is taken.]

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Progress Means Never Getting There

Tuesday 22 January, 2013

A disheartening title perhaps, but the point I’m making is that whenever we reach a goal in our development, it’s time to decide where to go next. If we don’t, we stagnate. Top athletes across all sports can be heard saying of their achievements: “There will be plenty of time to enjoy my successes (after I retire). Right now I have to train for my next match.” It’s important to reflect on our progress as we go, but it is equally important to keep going.

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Challenging Our Assumptions

Wednesday 19 December, 2012

A week ago I was challenged to leave my comfort zone. I saw it coming and my immediate response was to resist. Fortunately my motivation to take up the challenge was greater. It was all part of a coaching course I was attending and during this particular session I had been talking with one of the coaches about my reluctance to make the first move in social interactions. At best I feel awkward; at worst, anxious and ready to leave. The coach knew my travel arrangements for that evening and our closing dialogue went something like this:

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We Change Anyway

Saturday 24 November, 2012

This week was the final session. The last in a series of nine workshops I have been running over the last six months with a team in Amsterdam. The main goal was to enhance the group’s communication and personal development by raising their level of awareness. This post is a reminder to them that they have achieved more than they may realise. It also highlights that the power of development work can be found in the simplest of comments.

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Supporting Each Other

Friday 11 May, 2012

This post is inspired by an entry from my training journal in which I was challenged to provide support to another member of the group. The entry itself doesn’t appear in this blog although I did comment on it in another post, ‘Be Firm With People & Contribute’. The following paragraph is an extract from the unpublished entry:

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The ‘How’ is Unimportant

Monday 4 April, 2011

Looking at the entry from 11 years ago, there is a sentence right in the middle which states: ‘I just couldn’t understand how it was supposed to work.

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Awareness Is The Key

Tuesday 22 March, 2011

Don’t try! I don’t want you to try. You just have to see what everyone else sees.’ This instruction was often heard during my training. Whenever we used the word ‘try‘ we would be very firmly challenged. Today’s post addresses a line from the entry on this day, 11 years ago:

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Lifting The Heaviness

Sunday 5 October, 2003

I woke up at some stage in the night disappointed that I am not moving back to Germany. I have a pain in my left leg which I noticed during yesterday’s walk. It feels bruised and tender, between the middle of the calf and the middle of the hamstring. Walking is awkward. My lower back is also sore. It also feels bruised.

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What’s With This Anger?

Saturday 4 October, 2003

I woke up and got ready for my walk: groin okay, back not bad, mind subdued. As I walked, only one thought came to me: What is the difference between being with my anger fully and holding on to it? And if I am with it fully will it drag me down?

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Taking Control & A Resolution

Friday 3 October, 2003

I must have slept well because I didn’t wake up once and never heard the alarm. I went for a short walk but could barely move. My back is stiff; but my groin is the worst. I can barely move my left leg. Walked off some of the annoyance. Returned to find Karaj not around for the second day running. Maybe he has been pushed into action just like me; that would be nice. Maybe he is sulking somewhere.

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Personalise Challenges

Thursday 25 September, 2003

Karaj, Shona and I talked about last night’s session. Karaj said we’ve made a good start and the fact that he was not present meant that we could approach it gently, rather than with the intensity which typifies his work. The main learning point is to personalise challenges to the individual concerned. With Ishwar last night, when he told me just to talk about my pain I became frustrated because if it were that easy I would not have asked people to help me. My response was to equate his suggestion to asking Karaj to talk about the pain in his life, which he has been unable to do for years, up until this week.

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More Conversations

Monday 28 July, 2003

For the second day running I slept until noon and then chatted with Karaj. We talked about cancelling the Wednesday Group (WSG) and just having Fridays and Saturdays. Then we talked about him and me. Why am I here? Karaj doesn’t know why I am in his life. When things are cleared, all will be revealed to us. I am the only one who has actually done something here. Fundamentally, I don’t irritate Karaj. I am in his life but I do not intrude. Karaj’s battle is between his intellect and his instinct (which is not to be confused with feelings).

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Just About Back To Normal

Friday 11 July, 2003

In the first session, Simran was heavily challenged. He says he is contributing to us with his fuck-ups because they are highlighting the holes in our procedures. The arrogance. We don’t want to get stuck in procedures, we want to move forward. Karaj told him it is his (Karaj’s) privilege to acknowledge people and that if Simran thinks he has contributed to us then he should calculate the benefit to others in financial terms. It was good that Ishwar has witnessed what Fridays are like with Simran. (Why is it good?)

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