TS 10 – Calibrate The Machine

Thursday 16 June, 2016

Whereas last week we focused on those aspects of ourselves which are also visible to other people, this week’s seminar looked at the more subtle aspects of our existence  – those signals which only we can be aware of because they come from within. They are the thoughts, feelings and intuitive sensations which are often so subtle that we don’t even notice them; or if we do, we ignore them, or we explain them away as being ridiculous or irrelevant. Life gets easier, however, when we listen to those subtleties.

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Be (With) The Best

Monday 15 September, 2014

Surround yourself with good people’, is standard advice for those who wish to succeed. Actually, it is sound advice for anyone, but in order to build relationships with the best people, we have to be the best we can be. And to be anywhere near that level, we have to own who we are. More specifically, we have to own how good we are. I have written about this subject before (see the related posts, below) but I am minded to revisit it because of several conversations I’ve had in recent weeks, as well as being prompted by some of the latest journal posts from 11 years ago (again, see below) in which I was challenged to see my own brilliance.

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Write Your Own Feedback

Sunday 27 April, 2014

It was the third day of his visit and the end of another productive day of silences, conversations, reading, writing and reflection. I had given the TA presentation in Amsterdam that evening and, as part of the process, I had asked the participants for their written feedback. I explained to them that although it obviously helps me, it is more important for them to take a couple of minutes to reflect for themselves. The exercise will bring more clarity to their experience and reinforce their learning. At home afterwards, as I knelt by the open, floor-level window of my apartment and Karaj sat in the armchair, we reflected on how well it had all gone. Outside, the country was celebrating. It was the first King’s Night here in the Netherlands for 122 years.

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Make Your Own Tools

Saturday 26 April, 2014

I gave a talk at Amsterdam University’s Business School yesterday. Near the beginning I spoke of the importance of writing things down and the necessity of seeking feedback from others on our behaviour and blind spots. It was at this point that one of the participants asked if there are any tools I could give him to help him with his personal development. I was privileged to have my mentor, Karaj, with me who easily became involved in the two-hour interaction with the students and alumni. He talked of people’s obsession with having tools and that the shelves of bookshops are full of books which offer tools. What is actually needed is the experience of the journey and knowing that patience, discipline, awareness, feedback, observation and (written) reflection are the elements you will have to come back to time and time again.

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It All Comes Down To This

Monday 14 October, 2013

When we forget the simplicity of it all, or we’re convinced there must be another way; when we are stuck, or frustrated by the lack of novelty, this is the post to read. It’s a reminder of the value of repetition and practise. Every day, every minute, every breath. In the end, it all comes down to this:

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Own How Good You Are

Friday 9 August, 2013

We all have doubts and insecurities. All of us. Some have less than others, but every one of us – without exception – goes through phases when the little voice inside our heads does its utmost to undermine us with uncertainty, indecision and worry. I have had numerous conversations lately on this subject with a variety of clients and the conclusion of each one has been this: ‘See how good you are and then own it.

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There’s no need to shout about who you are. Just be yourself, fully. I was once asked how one recognises aware people. Initially, I answered that they are the quiet ones, but that is not particularly helpful because not all quiet people are aware, and there may be some aware people who are not quiet. I added that there is no need to look for them. Focus on yourself, and when the time is right, they will find you.

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The Contributions We Make

Tuesday 4 December, 2012

This post is about how much we contribute to each other even though we may not realise we do. With our presence we can inspire people, lift their moods, reassure them or provide the opportunity for them to laugh, cry or just be. Sometimes only a few words or a smile are enough. Even silence can suffice to contribute and make a difference to people’s lives and yet we may never fully appreciate the effect we have.

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Deciding In Every Instant

Thursday 9 October, 2003

Karaj talked to Ishwar about me as if I weren’t there. The implication was that I am not going to be here for  much longer – can’t argue with that – and Karaj ended by saying, ‘I have done all I can for Jonathan. If I try to do any more I will kill him – I’ll do what his parents have done. There is nothing for Jonathan to do except practice what he has learnt here.’ There was some more about choosing to be with winners, and that if I do not own what I have achieved here and how good I am, then I will walk out myself.

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I Need To Win

Monday 6 October, 2003

After breakfast, I looked at my Vivekananda books: ‘We are responsible for who we are, because we have the power to be whoever we wish.’ Karaj and I then sat in the sunken garden for hours and talked. We began with how he prepares so thoroughly for every eventuality because it lessens the chance of the script finding a way through. If we are not prepared when we walk into a room, then we will always attract those people who will perpetuate our script. I felt emotional about how I have behaved towards people of late. I do not want to be an emotional person who takes it out on others.

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Working With The Ego States

Friday 19 September, 2003

I did not get to sleep until about 02:00 last night despite going to bed early. After a planning meeting this morning, with Karaj and Simran, I did my exercises. I felt energised afterwards and had a couple of insights during the session: 1) I needed to have carried on working last night because I couldn’t sleep anyway. 2) I appreciate Simran’s presence when he is here (and how Karaj deals with it) because he works with Karaj and I am free to get on with my work.

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It’s Your Choice: Brilliance Or Pain

Friday 5 September, 2003

In this evening’s men’s group there were comments to me from Karaj which prompted me to reflect on aspects of who I am.

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I Just Need To See It

Thursday 4 September, 2003

Karaj told me I’m thinking too much and that I can’t see what he can see in me. He explained the difference between the two of us: he knows what needs to be done, how long it will take and he appreciates that things take time, whereas I want everything to happen quickly.

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Earning The Right To Celebrate

Sunday 3 August, 2003

I met myself in the newsagents this morning. The owner started telling me that the world is overpopulated. I was backing away by the end of our brief conversation. It showed me how I used to be and how far I have come. What a relief.

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